I dread the idea of breaking up and losing our home that I love dearly. I love him and want to be with him but I wonder if I’m just wasting time waiting for something that will never happen. I feel like that’s an unrealistic expectation and an excuse to delay our future. I asked if he still wanted to get married and he said not considering proposing until there were no fights for months and months. He said he wasn’t factoring those into his decision. When he asked if I had any concerns, I asked if it would delay a potential wedding and family. He has enough money to cover our shared expenses and his business for a couple of years. Now, he has decided to quit his job to start his own business. The last few months have been great with us getting along and utilizing the tools we learned in counseling. We stopped the sessions after 10 months because we realized they were triggering the fights. We fought frequently after moving in due to a variety of issues and started couples counseling to address them. We bought a house in late 2021 with the intention that we would get married and start a family. My boyfriend (30M) and I (27F) have been together for three years. We reconciled, and I promised to work on my own part of the dynamic (fear of being hurt, better communication, etc.). In the time we took apart, which was only two days, we both realized we didn’t want to give up on things. I love this person, and the decision to end things was challenging because we do have a very strong bond. I would bring those things up occasionally, but the sense he didn’t trust me was always there. I kept noticing toxic behavior over and over again, which were: a lack of trust, trying to catch me in lies that didn’t exist, keeping a close eye on my location constantly, asking where I was/who I was with every time we were apart, and making unsolicited and sometimes hurtful comments about my appearance. I ended things with my partner recently-we’d been together for a little over a year. We asked Afualo to weigh in on secret Reddit histories, delayed proposals, and classic heartbreak:
Today’s columnist is Drew Afualo, whose known for her popular TikTok account (in which she critiques sexist videos spreading on the app) and her podcast, The Comment Section with Drew Afualo. This special edition is part of our Guest Prudie series, where we ask smart, thoughtful people to step in as Prudie for the day and give you advice.
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